My views on marriage have taking a drastic turn, thank God for divine inspiration by the holy-spirit I was of the opinion of crying, praying and hoping things change. Or planning an escape route by hoping for financial independence so i can move on with my life.
My new view is to fight for what is mine, my married was before God and the law. So I have both legal and spiritual rights over my husband, now am going to use it as due. M as issues, physical and spiritual the right action isn't for me to run and cry But for me to stand and fight.
Am going to make demands, women just like taking second fiddle most times. but it shouldn't be - I have rights too, since i cook, clean, take care of the children and generally make sure the home front is peaceful i deserve some things too. Really basic things and rather then fold my arms and expect a miracle. Am going to pray and sort out M on the spiritual level and make demands and fight on the physical. rather then wip-up sentiments am going to get angry and ask for what is mine.
RESPECT: To be treated like an individual with brains, an adult that has thoughts and opinions, a woman with feelings and emotions.
COMPANIONSHIP: I didn't get married to become lonely i want quality time. i want to be heard and not just shoved aside. i want my husband to be my BFF (best friends forever).
and LOVE.
That is all i want and that is all any woman truly wants and i think we all deserve it.
Marriage is not easy. And having twins makes an already hard job even harder. Give it time, and be sure to make your needs/desires known. Men can't read minds! Also, know that your own emotions may be heightened if you haven't slept enough, eaten or taken care of yourself. So be sure to do that! Brighter days will come!
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